Equipping Godly Women Podcast

Want to Be a More Patient, Peaceful Mom? Stop Trying So Hard

Brittany Ann

If you’ve ever promised yourself, “Okay, today I will NOT lose my cool… for real this time,” only to lose your cool before breakfast, hi. You’re in good company.

Most of us assume patience, peace, and kindness come from trying harder, doing better, or magically waking up as a brand-new woman who suddenly loves chaos and sticky floors. (Spoiler: she doesn’t exist.)

That's why, in today’s episode, I’m talking with author Ava Pennington about why “trying harder” actually works against us, and why the Holy Spirit’s way is so much better.

We dig into the Fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—and how these traits were never meant to be produced by white-knuckling your way through motherhood. 

Instead, they’re the natural result of walking with the Holy Spirit… who (good news!) actually wants to carry the weight you keep trying to shoulder yourself.

In this conversation, we’ll talk about:
 • why moms default to “do better, try harder” (and why it backfires)
 • how to recognize the real obstacles beneath your impatience and overwhelm
 • what it looks like to partner with the Holy Spirit instead of performing for Him
• practical ways to nurture peace, patience, and joy in the middle of normal, messy days
• how to help your kids grow these traits too—without preaching or pretending

If you’re tired of beating yourself up, tired of trying harder, and tired of feeling like you should be “more patient by now”… take a breath and listen in.

There’s a much gentler, kinder, more effective way forward, and you don’t have to do it alone.

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